Working Holiday Visas: What I’ve learnt about life, love and literature

I will be heading back to the UK for a visit in about a months time, the visit coincides with my 30th Birthday, which has got me thinking about everything I’ve learnt about myself and doing a working holiday these past 19 months, closing the door on my 20s.

When people talk about travelling they talk about the way it changes you and yes it does change you, but for me at least it’s given me the freedom to explore and become the person I want to be.  As you’re constantly meeting new people and they don’t know who you were before so you can be whatever version of yourself around them you want to be.


Some of the lovely people I’ve met in Wellington

I think for most us doing the WHVs for most of the time, we’re static in one place living and working in a new city or town. I’ve lived and worked in 2 different cities Sydney and Wellington.  I’ve been different in both.

Sydney Harbour the side you don’t normally see

In Sydney I was pretending it seems to me now, I was acting and behaving in ways that I thought I should be whilst living ‘the dream’ in Sydney.  My reality was very different to the ‘dream’ life I thought I’d have.  Looking back now I feel like Sydney was just a big old learning curve for me, I felt overwhelmed in it. Don’t get me wrong it’s a great city and I had some great times there, it just wasn’t the right fit for me.


Wellington harbour at sunset

Wellington on the other hand, feels like home.  I feel like here I’ve become a person I like and a person I’d like to stay.  I’ve become a gym bunny, a party girl, hostel long termer, HR Coordinator and friend to a lot of awesome people. I am content here, and yeah life isn’t perfect a lot of things could be better but I have good friends, I like my gym, I don’t hate my job life could and has been a hell of a lot worse.


This is what I’ve learnt these past 19 months:

  • I needed to grow up a lot.
  • Life is what you make of it.
  • Nothing can live up to big expectations.
  • Reality is when it’s payday and you’re moneys already gone.
  • The cheaper hostels have the best people in.
  • Be that annoying person who talks to everyone that walks in their dorm room.
  • A bit of distance makes things clearer.
  • I can sit at home watching Netflix feeling sorry for myself or go out there and do something about life.
  • People can make a place, but a place can make people.
  • Being content is a great thing to be.
  • Being a heavy sleeper is a god send in Hostels.
  • Hostels are the best way to meet people while travelling. Embrace it.
  • Each new place you move to you’ll figure things out a bit more and get a step closer to what you want.
  • Wellington is the coolest little capital in the world I love it with all my heart.



I couldn’t help but wonder…

There a lot of things in life I don’t understand.  In fact I really don’t understand most of it.  I seem to be having, the same conversation with a lot of my friends at the moment, where are all the nice guys?

People keep saying it will happen, you’ll meet a nice guy eventually or it’ll happen when you least expected it.  So you listen to the advice, stop looking and you meet someone, then that someone turn out to be a complete arsehole.  Then people, say that you have to give out the right signals, be open to finding someone, so start looking and you meet someone, then that someone turns out to be a complete arsehole.  What are you meant to do then? 

I’ve said, this before and I’ll say it again, but if guys are still single, past their mid 20s then there’s obviously something wrong with them, otherwise why haven’t they been snapped up yet? 

I think I speak for my generation, when I say, I don’t think it’s asking a lot, to want to meet a guy who makes you feel special, is nice to you and makes you feel wanted.  Surely a guy like that can’t be that hard to find, right?

I’m not bashing the male species, I know some women can be just as bad if not worse, than guys.  But the way I see it is, sometimes guys you just need to man up, it can’t be that hard to be a good guy and treat the person, you’re with or like nicely, especially since you’re meant to care about them.

I couldn’t help but wonder…

So last night, one of my friends broke up with her boyfriend, because he was texting some other girl…  

It got me thinking that half way through our 20s why is this still an issue? Why are guys still messing us around, I know girls mature faster than guys but seriously you’d have thought they would have caught up by now! 

But then on the flip side of things, some of my friends are in long term relationships and their boyfriends are really really lovely and treat them well, don’t muck them about and do all the things they’re supposed to do. 

What I’m wondering is, what if you get to point in life, when all the good ones are taken. Then what are you meant to do if you get to that point in life and you haven’t met one of the good ones?  Theres 6 billion people in the world, what are the chances that you’re going to meet the one person whose right for you, as we’re made to believe is out there by pop culture?

Life is starting to prove Sex and the City actually got it right all along.